By keeping separate accounts, each partner is responsible for his or her account and how much he or she saves and spends. No space is left for the blame game in this way, when separate accounts are kept by spouses. They can easily divide the expenses based on each person’s income. Not only this, they can also split the bills in each other’s accounts.

However, before starting different accounts, make sure to ask yourself a few important questions such as, whether your partner or you have a poor credit. Also, consider whether you or your partner have any bounced checks. Apart from this, also check whether you both are legally binding in marriage, common low marriage or civil unions.

So, now we assume that you have got a new secret to lead a happy married life by keeping separate accounts.

By cooperating in a relationship as a couple you either meet your desires, or give them up eagerly for the sake of the relationship’s success. However, this might not be the case always.

At times one partner might need to fulfill his/her important need and despite repeated attempts might fail to do so. In such case, they will face conflict between giving up that important need, or choosing to do whatever is necessary.

If they choose to do what they desire, they might feel guilty, and if they don’t they might have to critically compromise their self-respect. In long run, this might silently become a feeling of hatred towards their partners for whom they had to sacrifice their wishes.

This, in turn, can lead to conflict on trivial issues and ultimately might lead you to pay a high price later.

To compromise integrity for the sake of your relationship is not wrong. However, you must consider things that can cause harm to your self-respect if you compromise them. In such cases, the risk of losing your self-respect will cause great damage if you pretend to make compromises. 

“Honesty is the best policy”, well it might be an age old saying but it still holds true. Especially in case of relationships, it is of paramount importance that we are honest. When we say relationship it could be with your partner, it could be your family or your friends.

By honesty we mean, telling the truth. At times we might feel that it is better we hide the truth as it might hurt the other person. But in the long run this could be detrimental to a relationship. Lying even if it was to ensure that someone doesn’t get hurt is not acceptable. It means you are hiding the real person in you or trying to give a false impression about yourself.

But honesty doesn’t mean you should be rude. Yes there are times when you speak your mind out; it may not do you any good, although you were just being honest. You have to be tactful or perhaps just be nice. The objective of being honest should not be to make the other person feel bad, but it should be aimed at improving things or helping the other person out. So, just be a little careful before speaking out your mind. But, again honesty has to be there but it has to be mixed with caution.

Honesty will always be beneficial and help improve your relationships. It not only creates harmony, it also increases trust and we all know that trust is the platform of any relationship. Not being honest could make a person feel that whatever he/she is doing is right and when you do not point these mistakes out for the fear of hurting the other person it might make things nice for the time being. However, in the long run it will only harm.

Our relationships have a great impact on our health. Relationships apart from being a medium to happiness also create great responses in our body. It has been observed that isolation and loneliness causes stress in an individual and he can be seen really happy if you see him with his friends and family. It has been established that relationships boost the immune system in an individual.

There was a research carried out on a group of nurses who were below the age of 65 years. The immune system of their blood and the attachment style of each were considered in the study. It was found that women who had insecure style of attachment had reduced immune activity and were prone to various diseases. There was a direct correlation between the level of secure attachment and the effectiveness of the immune system.

There was also another study conducted which took into account how one’s perceived usefulness to their families and friends had an impact on their health. The study was conducted among adults who aged between 70 to 79 years. These people were examined 7 years later for health data and also for mortality. The study concluded that individuals who had high ratings on their own usefulness were last expected to suffer from mortality or any other chronic illness.

The percentage of a person developing a cognitive problem was also high in those who felt lonely. So, it is interesting to notice that you may have a good connections but the important thing from your health prospective is not to feel lonely.

You should define your relationship right at the start so that you know the limits. You should be honest to each other and share your feelings and talk about sensitive issues regularly. Encouraging your partner can make him or her feel that you are there to help and assist at any time. Try to make up for the fact that you two cannot meet but make sure to maintain an effective communication channel.

In addition, you can always surprise your partner with flowers and gifts from time to time to keep the spark in your relationship. You should exercise patience and listen to your partner to resolve any sort of conflict between the two of you. Another great way of handling your long distance relationship is to plan and arrange a meeting whenever possible. Although you don’t intend to end up in a long distance relationship but even if it turns out that way, these little suggestions would ensure that your relationship never meets a dead end.

Remember that your silent acceptance to your partner’s verbal, mental and physical abuse is not your love for him or her. You need to fight back to stop it. Silent acceptance will in fact motivate your partner to harass you all the more.

You may go to a counselor and ask for advice from people who specialize in dealing with domestic violence. It may be that your partner is in good mood for sometime, take him or her along when the mood is okay and let the counselor advice him or her to mend his or her ways of treating you.

When your partner tries to abuse you in any form, try to leave the place and come back when he or she is normal. This might help in suppressing his or her anger. Try out to find out reasons for his such anger on you and then try to eliminate those reasons for a non-violent married life

Another dreaded part of a broken relation is that it often happens all of a sudden without having time to recuperate you. Although it is a time bound process, yet recovering from a broken relationship actually seems to be prolonged sometimes. If you are feeling the same way, it would not be a bad idea at all to seek help. But you need to understand a few things which will help you to restore yourself. Here are a few aspects on recovering from a broken relationship:

It is very much likely that you will feel lonely (even when your close pals or family are around), depressed and under confident. An undesired urge to go back to your previous relation or feel like crying out all day and night and feeling sorry for yourself. Do not stop the feeling. Let it pour down from your eyes in the form of tears. Do not stop yourself if you want to hum a sad song or stay in the rain, all wet. By allowing your feeling to come out you are likely to lighten your sorrow laden heart. Soon you will start feeling better. Consulting with a professional or a family member or a close pal will also help.

Before long you will find yourself in a position where you think about your past relation and do not feel sad. You are more likely to think that such a relation was important at that phase of your life. You would not find yourself lonely and under confident even when you are alone. You will start finding people who interests you and whom you can confide in. You will start smiling a lot again, as you used to do earlier. Now, you know you are starting to gain control of yourself and your feelings and realize a ‘happy you.’

This is time you resume getting back to yourself. There is a saying which goes something like this,” you get hurt when a relation breaks, because you loved someone else more than you loved yourself”. So, leave your past well behind you and move on. Tell yourself and to others, “nice person but we were not compatible to each other.”

By this time you will come to understand that that relationship had something really intrigue and important in store for you. You will come to now how relationship works and how it does not. In other words you will become more mature and now how to tackle real life situations. Understand one thing, it is not wise to spend time pondering over the past relationship and waste your time and energy. Whenever it comes into your mind just laugh over it and tell yourself ‘bygones are bygones’. When you come across your past partner and you can easily talk or chat with him and not feel bad, you know you have actually recovered from the Broken Relationship.