There is a fine difference between first love of teenagers and that of adults. The teens are little more fierce than the adults as far as love is concerned. But, the love that happens in teenage disappears quite easily. Survey says that the first love of teenagers doesn’t stay beyond 3-4 months.

As per psychologists there are 3 different phases of first love namely lust, attraction and attachment. And when the intimacy in the first love increases it creates trust and sharing between the couple, which helps in the long run. An infatuation on your favorite star or player during childhood cannot be termed as first love. There has to be a romantic relationship or attraction involved.

Though most memories of a first love are fond and tender, there are cases when you might have a painful affair as well. So, to be safe, one must analyze all the good and bad aspects of the person you fall in love with before deciding on the future of your relationship.

Though no one can fight the nature but we can always take steps to learn how to deal with situations that leads to the killing of a relationship. It seems, in winter the bad elements in us come cropping up, maybe due to lack of energy level in us. As per scientists, one reason for this lack of energy is because of the lack of sunlight during this season. The scarcity of sunlight in winters somehow worsens our level of mood regulating mechanism, which makes us irritated more often as compared to summer.

So, to aviod such behaviour, scientists suggests that we should expose ourselves to the sun more frequently, as and when it is sunny. Even if for a short while, but exposing to the sun is very important. This raises our vitamin D and serotonin and help us get close to our loved ones.

The importance of communication to take a relationship forward has been said and written about in many books, but nevertheless man always struggle on this.

For man who thinks that they can’t find enough to talk when with a woman can rather be an effective listener. It is not necessary to do the talking all the time, you can also be a good listener. So the first lesson to learn is to be the pensive listener.

Woman likes it when she is being heard, her feeling respected and her thoughts regarded. Try and support her, empathize with her and be compassionate towards her feelings.

If the lady in question is your wedded wife, try to emulate her nature, her feelings to know her better and to be in sync with her position.

Besides, there are the tested and tried ways like sending gifts, flowers, doing their errands, praising them, spending quality time, hugging and so on.

Moreover, ask questions to your lady to converse. This will not only get you to know her better but also make her feel important.

By simply following these small tactics, man can definitely win the love of their lady, get her attention and enrich the relationship.

Well, after years of research scientists have at last revealed why true love is such a rare thing and the answer in your DNA. In the human brain there are four minute parts that are believed to form the love circuit. These four parts are known as ventral tegmental area (VTA), the ventral pallidum, the nucleus accumbens and raphe nucleus.

The research was done on individuals who were in love newly and those who were in love for more than 20 years. When they were placed in a functional magnetic resonance imaging machine and were shown their beloved’s images, the VTA lit up. To sum up, it can be said that love is like drug addiction that works chemically in human brain.

Two more parts of the brain lit up along with the VTA in the men and women who were in true love- the raphe nucleus and ventral pallidum. The raphe nucleus pours out serotonin that “gives you a sense of calm,” while ventral pallidum is related to attachment and stress decreasing hormones.

True love is rare, but it does exist. Apparently, there are many who just aren’t persuaded to make love go on to such an extent. They either fall out of love or get bored. But there are people who indeed know the secret behind making love last for a lifetime.

Being love sick is not just a physiological disorder that heals with time. Research has proved that love sickness can have serious implications to health. According to this research report, people in problematic relationships risk the chance of having serious health issues. People who constantly worry about their relationships or are anxious and insecure about relationships have greater chances of being harmed.

People in troubled relationships have 50% higher chances of having a stroke or heart problems as compared to those in steady relationships. This study was published earlier this month in the Health Psychology journal and was based on interviews of 5,645 people between the age of 18 and 60 years.

The study on these people revealed that those who had troubled relationships and had lot of anxiousness and anxiety involved in their relationships were prone to many diseases. There had higher chances of suffering from a number of chronic diseases, which include cardiovascular diseases and severe headaches amongst other problems. 

Dr Lachlan McWilliams from the Canada Acadia University led this study and according to him insecurity in a relationship can have serious health implications and also increases the risk of several diseases greatly. The most common problems are cardio vascular disease.

The study has also revealed that if these problems in relationships are sorted out, the vulnerability towards these diseases goes down. So, it is important to maintain a healthy relationship and you need to ensure that you don’t be in a relationship with a constant fear of it falling apart but rather work towards making it smooth.

Is there any connection between love songs and women’s likelihood to go out on a date? Well, researchers believe there is. According to some French researchers, women are more likely to go on a date after listening to love songs. They say playing the right tracks improve the chances of getting a girl out for date remarkably. This should come as a great relief for all the average looking guys who have to struggle quite a bit to get a date.

These researchers conducted an extensive study on the reaction of women as well as men to various situations. Violent video games and aggressive music stimulated aggression and on the other hand when men went to a flower shop that played romantic music, it made them stay much longer.

The researchers Celine Jacob and Nicolas Gueguen, along with Lubomir Lamy studied 18-20 years old females (single) with romantic lyrics. The process was carried out by making these girls listen to romantic songs for a while and then were asked to go to meet a group of men in the other room and discuss food products with them. The results were quite impressive.

Most of the guys were very average and stand very little chance of getting phone numbers of these girls. But courtesy to the love songs, the chances of these guys getting the phone number of these girls went up almost by 52%. Although there is more research to be done, it is more than obvious that love songs increases the chances of getting a girl out on a date.

It is easy to get into a relationship but to sustain it with the same passion and dedication is the tough part. There are several factors to a successful relationship, love off course being the most important. However, the other not so significant factors also major also play a major role in the success of a relationship. One such factor is humor.

Over a period of time a relation is bound to lose steam and if we do not make a conscious effort to sustain it, we might end up loosing it. A bit of humor keeps the flame burning and the tensions and worries at bay. Some people have a natural sense of humor and there are some who don’t. But it doesn’t at all mean that if you do not posses it you cannot cultivate it.

Being humorous doesn’t mean you have to be a comedian, but it means that you look at things with a pinch of salt and try to look at the lighter aspects of things. There are already thousands things to worry about, so if you can find a lighter side to problems life would be much better and it would reflect on your relationship too. 

It is all about knowing what makes you and your partner happy and using this knowledge in creating humor out of even serious things in life. You have understand that problems will be there in life as well as relations and by worrying and panicking you would do no good to anyone. Rather accept these problems, smile and move forward. A successful relation is one which has deep love and a bit of humor to keep things rolling.

Love is a wonderful feeling but can also be very confusing at times. It is very hard for one to be certain about the person with whom you are likely to end up. There is a possibility that you would find someone who has similar interests and outlook towards life. The two of you may also have a great chemistry and love each other’s company. But the question then arises is does the number of candles on your birthday cake determine the fate of your love.

Outer appearance and beauty is greatly responsible for cupid striking a person. However, you would find that there are so many other things that you did not consider before getting into a relationship. The age gap between two individuals is a very common cause for break ups. However, it is fairly common to see young girls dating an older guy than the other way around. There are some men who would choose older woman over young girls, who keep giggling on silly reasons.

The relationship between two people with a certain age gap is also not very acceptable in some societies. It is certainly not traditional. You may come across younger people from the opposite sex who flirts with you. In such a situation, it is important to hold yourself back as any advancement from your side may prove embarrassing. Relationships in today’s world are being carried out in different ways and you must be aware of it in order to better fix your predicament.

Well! I have chosen a guy an year younger to me in age. I believe that the success of every relation is understanding, care and love obviously. In case you have these ingredients, you gonna cook up the luscious dish of your life successfully. Even if one person becomes negative, it becomes the duty of the other person to stay calm and handle the situation keeping in mind the love you  guys have for each other.

It seems very hard to distinguish between love and lust. More often, there is the tendency for people to consider the attachment as lust. It may be noted though when a person falls in love, the body automatically starts producing chemicals. This is also the case with your brain and these act as natural aphrodisiac and are painkillers. This probably explains why most couples spend most of their initial time between the sheets.

Apparently, at the beginning love and lust seem to co exist. However, there are some questions which if you ask yourself would definitely let you know whether your relationship is based on love or lust. You may need to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with the person you are with. You may also ask yourself how long you would be able to hold yourself without making love with this person and how would you react if the other person has some physical or emotional problem.

The love drugs that are present initially among every couple may fade away very soon but when you know that you do not need it to make your relationship special, it’s only then you realize that it must be love. A loving relationship is one which is based on selflessness and thoughtfulness unlike a lustful relationship which is marked by selfishness and thoughtlessness. A relationship based on love stands the taste of time. There is a possibility that lust exist in a loving relationship, the opposite though is not quite possible.

The psychology of love is not as complex as it is made out to be. It is just about getting the right connection with your partner. A little practicality on your part can definitely ensure that you enjoy a healthy relationship with your partner.

You can make the cupid work in your favour by trying out something new in the kitchen. This has nothing to do with either of your cooking capabilities. You two can have a glass of wine and work on your love psychology by trying to make a gourmet meal together.

Try to indulge your partner in every possible way whenever possible. The psychology between you two also gets a boost if you read books together. Trying out different books which are sensual and spiritual will give you to explore and focus on your partner and you are certain to find out different facets of his/her personality. All you men out there can also do some domestic chores for a change to improve your relationship with your partner.

The psychology between you and your partner can also be improved if you try and understand the reason of a particular behaviour. Your partner does not want you to hurt intentionally, so, you should try to assume innocence and honesty on the part of your partner. This will definitely give a boost to your connections.

Make an effort to connect to your partner by doing various activities like hiking, meditating and going to the church together. This will bring out the best in your relationship.