Proving the old adage of saying ‘we’ instead of ‘I’ increases the love between two people right, a research has suggested that spouses who have the habit of using the “we-ness” lingo are in a better shape when it comes to resolving a conflict than those who are not in the same habit. The study was conducted at the University of California in Berkeley and stresses the importance of using the word “we” in a relationship. Its use definitely leads to a much happy married life.

The research concluded the findings on the analysis made on the interactions between 154 couples of middle and older age about the various reasons for their disagreement. It was found out that there was more positive response from those who used the terms “we”, “us” and “our” in their relationships and also had less psychological stress. The study, which was published in Psychology and Aging, read that couples who used pronouns like “I”, “you” and “me” seemed less content in their relationships.

The study also found that facing and overcoming the various obstacles and challenges of life together over a long period of time gives the older couples a sense of togetherness which is not present among middle-aged couples. The sense of being a partner of each other and increased confidence gives the elderly couple a sense of mutual identity which is a natural consequence in a relationship. According to Levenson who is the co-author of the concluded study, in the individualistic American Society, giving up a part of “me” in the ambit of marriage is helpful.