When you are talking with somebody and want him to do something you wish, never build your phrase like “don’t shout”, “don’t go”, “don’t leave”.
You have to learn how to use only positive language to get what you intend. For example, say “calm down” instead “don’t shout”, say “stay with me” instead “don’t leave”. Remember it, this is extremely important advice to you.
The thing is in human’s subconsciousness, which operates only with images. It doesn’t understand “not” element and we have to talk to it on its figurative language. For example our mind could see (read imagine) composed, quiet person, but it cannot imagine “not shouting man”, it sees vividly somebody, who is doing something, but cannot clearly understand what to do if you say “don’t do it”. Better say “stop doing this” or “leave it”.
That is why when you are telling “don’t touch”, our subconsciousness, first of all sees TOUCH. And it sees it brightly and vividly and ready to execute your order. Eventually you got results opposite to your intentions, wondering why he or she did smth if I’ve patiently asked him not to do.
Just make your personal positive list of most applied phrases and control yourself during conversation. Our next subject will teach you how to make him (or her) say “yes” about your proposition.
