To tell that drugs are awful and they cause harm… actually means to say nothing. It’s a very acute problem, nowadays. Drugs bring evil, they destroy families and lives. Each day brings new victims, new drug-addictive people … Unfortunately such addictions can’t go untreated and the first step is a willingness to recover and a readiness to take help and the next step is to consult a Drug Treatment Center.
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Hi, today I would like to introduce to you an Orange County Counselor, whose aim is to help people to improve their romantic and family relationships, that will last forever. It is a common knowledge, when everything in your life doesn’t work well and goes not the way you would like, you start blaming yourself and thinking that nothing in this world can change this situation.
Have you ever heard, that time is the best healer? Yeah? Great and this counselor knows this for sure as well. So, in order each client to get the best treatment possible, he limits the hours he works, thus clients get the full attention they deserve. Quality relationships are the basis of our well-being and this statement sounds very reasonable.
What is anchoring and why it could be useful for you. I am sure you’ve heard about NLP techniques a lot (since you are reading psychological blog). But let me explain how it is possible to apply anchoring technique to facilitate and return some mind states whenever you wish.
Firstly define how do you want to feel or enforce somebody to feel with settled anchor. If you talk to a friend who is nervous, anxious, you just propose him to remind or imagine something very pleasant he had in past (go back to the nice and calm experience, but strong emotionally). Just close eyes and imagine. When he is in process of reminding you might probably see a slight smile on his face.
To create an anchor you have to touch him very specially somewhere in unusual place (may be press by finger his arm or shoulder). Anchor means that next time when you’ll press his shoulder in a same way he mush automatically remind his mind state of last time when you’ve settled anchor (a pleasant state).
You can apply anchors to your own mind as well, having a exciting potential to fell yourself in a way you want (or need) to feel.
Relax, go back to your memory, find strong exciting feelings in a past. Now try to feel them again in a full and when you’ll reach a peak of this emotions make an unusual gesture or touch yourself in special place.
If you made an anchor properly it will enforce you feel excited when you need it to resume this state. Of course it requires a practice, but it worth to master.
Tell me about your experience in comments if you do have!
The very famous method in negotiations is a technique of three “yes”.
Have you heard about it? No? Then let me start with a little explanation.
The think is that out mind acts and operate mainly by patterns.
It’s much easier to live and do usual thinks not to think about way of their realization.
It saves your time. Actually, more then 80% of your daily thoughts and deeds are patterns.
Our mind finds it comfortably to think mechanically not to overweight memory and brain at all.
Try a very simple test right now: (answer immediate, please)
What was your answer for last question? Almost a guarantee that you’ve answered “red light”.
Haven’t you? But right word is “green” (sorry).
The same scheme is for “yes”. Look at this:
Try it in different aspects and tell us about results with personal comments!
When you are talking with somebody and want him to do something you wish, never build your phrase like “don’t shout”, “don’t go”, “don’t leave”.
You have to learn how to use only positive language to get what you intend. For example, say “calm down” instead “don’t shout”, say “stay with me” instead “don’t leave”. Remember it, this is extremely important advice to you.
The thing is in human’s subconsciousness, which operates only with images. It doesn’t understand “not” element and we have to talk to it on its figurative language. For example our mind could see (read imagine) composed, quiet person, but it cannot imagine “not shouting man”, it sees vividly somebody, who is doing something, but cannot clearly understand what to do if you say “don’t do it”. Better say “stop doing this” or “leave it”.
That is why when you are telling “don’t touch”, our subconsciousness, first of all sees TOUCH. And it sees it brightly and vividly and ready to execute your order. Eventually you got results opposite to your intentions, wondering why he or she did smth if I’ve patiently asked him not to do.
Just make your personal positive list of most applied phrases and control yourself during conversation. Our next subject will teach you how to make him (or her) say “yes” about your proposition.
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